Friends are hard to come by they don’t just fall out of the sky. Staying in your room will not get you far as a resident. As a commuter going to class and then going home will also get you no where when it comes to making friends . You have to get out there and talk to new people . Before I started college making friends was hard for me, I didn’t talk to anyone unless they talked to me first. I would go off by myself in a corner at lunch and every group project I had I would do it by myself. When it was time to start my college life as a freshmen I made a pledge to myself that I would be more open and make new friends. To do this I needed these steps:
Step 1: When I first move in my dorm I am going to keep my door open so people would feel welcome to come in and talk to me anytime I was in my room.
Step 2: If I saw people doing things I would just randomly join them.
Step 3: If I saw someone sitting alone at lunch or dinner I would sit with them.
Step 4: Join a club on campus.
Step 5: In class answer/ask questions.
College is where you make friends that will be with you until the end. Your high school friends tend to grow-up, make new friends, change, and go to different schools. Making friends in college is important if you don’t want to feel alone. With these 5 steps I have made many life long friends.
By following my 5 steps are guaranteed for making friends
REMEMBER: College is what you make it!!
“ Life begins at the end of your comfort zone”- Neale Donald Walsch
For example, in high school I would come home everyday and get on the phone and stay on the phone for hours. That was my comfort zone and it carried over into my college life. Even if my friends were down the hall I would call them on the phone because that is what I was used to. I didn’t realize that I was missing out on all the activities that were happening on BenU’s campus. I was missing out on making new friends and even just meeting new people. After many days of this I decided to get out and explore my campus, meet new people and get a job.
The point of me telling my story is to tell you if you stay in your comfort zone in college you wont have much fun. College is a place you come to grow and to learn things about yourself. If you don’t get out of your comfort zone you will miss out on many things, but once you step out of your comfort zone your new life will begin.
All my life I have known that I was going to college, but I never really knew what college meant. Yes, I understood that it meant getting a higher education which means a better job which than equals more money, but the actual letters C-O-L-L-E-G-E was a mystery to me.
Let’s start with the double L’s, I have come to learn that they mean “you Live and you Learn”. I say that because in college you start to live your life without your parents and learn a lot about yourself that you didn’t know before. Now the letter “G” seems to mean “guarantee” because in college you are guaranteed to have a good time. There is always someone around to hang out with or some type of event that is taking place; which makes college more interesting because you never know what the next day will bring. On both sides of the “G” is an “E”. The first “E” gives me the impression that it means “engaged”. In college you have to be engaged to learn and to meet new people. If you don’t become engaged you will have a very lonely four years in college. With this in mind let’s talk about the first letter of the word “C” which means “calm”. Yes, college is a new place with new and different people but stay calm don’t be nerves and afraid of the new things to come. With staying calm you should also be “enthusiastic” which is the last “E”; you should be enthusiastic because you are coming to a place where you can get away from your parents (especially if you’re living on campus). Last but not least is the “O” which means opportunity. There are many opportunities on campus to travel or do community service as a student you should be involved to learn more about the world you live in and others around you. If you follow every thing that I have said you will have a great time in college, especially at Benedictine University!