At some point in our lives, we’re all going to be forced to have to deal with someone we don’t like or even absolutely hate. Whether it’s through a job, sports team, or group project, we have to learn how to handle those individuals we don’t mesh well with. College is not the place for petty fights and immaturity, so it’s important that we know how to handle this like adults now because these people don’t go away once you get older. Here’s what I’ve learned from dealing with all kinds of people with not-so-nice characteristics:
1) The Attention Hog: This is the person who thinks everything is about them and also tries to MAKE everything about them. They can do this by bragging or even acting stupid or ditzy just to get a reaction out of people. It’s best to give as little attention as possible to these people. Don’t feed into their stories or comment on their ridiculous behavior. Just ignore them or give them short acknowledgement and move on.
2) The One Who Acts Like a Child: Sometimes you’ll come across people who don’t seem like they belong in college. They probably talk way too loud or get unnecessarily excited about things. Acting silly can be fun, but these people take it to a whole new level. Instead of telling these people they are annoying you, simply treat them like adults and don’t laugh at their ridiculous antics.
3) The Negative Nancy: This person seems to always be upset about something. When you’re with them, they are constantly down and bring others down with them as well. They can do this by having an unpleasant mood or by constantly complaining. Never feed into this person’s negativity. Always put a positive spin on what they have to say and don’t ever let them take you down with them.
4) The Drama Queen/King: (see Attention Hog as well). This person can cause a fight over the tiniest thing. Even looking at them wrong can spark a controversy. They do nothing but cause problems for all their friends because they start useless drama and don’t think rationally. In this case you always have to show that you’re the bigger person. It can be hard, but fighting back will just cause a bigger mess. Don’t let it phase you. You’re probably going farther in life than that person ever will.
5) The Fake: This person rarely does anything with a genuine attitude and will pretend to be kind to you because they feel like they have to in order to get what they want. If your a pushover (like myself) these people could potentially use you. They’ll be nice just so they can copy you’re lab homework and then never say hi to you again. If you can’t cut these people out completely, leave subtle hints to let them know you’re onto their pretending and always be firm if you feel you’re being used.
Having issues with the people around us should never get in the way of what we want to accomplish. We should never let these types of individuals bring out the worst qualities in us because in all honestly, they are not worth it. So next time you have to deal with a bad personality take a deep breathe, reevaluate, and decide that it’s best not to let them get to you.